Standards

Out Of Hand Desire.

So I hate to say this, but I gotta get it off my chest.

Our insatiable desire for a man is part of the curse.

Yearning for a man entangles us in bondage.

And the sad thing is, most of us don’t even know it.

This revelation came to me while I was listening to Bishop Donald Clay release a powerful word about fear connecting us to the curse.

When Adam and Eve ate fruit from the forbidden tree, not only did the sanction of sin come down on humanity, it crippled the woman with painful childbirth and always longing for a man

“Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” Genesis 3:16 (NKJV)  

This verse isn’t about submission — but our state of subconsciousness in relation to a man.

The Hebrew word used for desire in this scripture is “tesuqa” which means longing or stretching. 

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If you think about it, women do all kinds of things to stretch for a man.

Bend over backwards, sacrifice standards, and remai unequally yoked.

He may be lukewarm but we justify the relationship anyways.

It’s better to be with someone than single right?

There’s nothing wrong with wanting a man.

It’s just a problem when the desire gets out of hand.

Wendy Alsup, blogger of “Practical Theology for Women”, sums up this point perfectly:

“The problem with our desires is always that they are either for the wrong thing or for the right thing but out of proportion of what is appropriate.

That’s why so many women are struggling.

The desire is out of proportion of what is appropriate.

How many times have you been on your knees begging for a Boaz?

Or felt like you’re missing out because you’re living a wedding band?

Ladies, we can no longer allow the enemy to have the upper hand.

Too many of us are looking to men for affirmation and provision.

But men were never intended to have that position.

They can’t supply all of our needs physically, emotionally and spiritually.

The truth of the matter is, only God, not man can handle that.

So let’s get out under that curse and trust Christ with the desires our hearts.

By Sydni Grant
sydni@areyoushe.com
Photo: flickr.com

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“Keep The Good Stuff Covered” Response To Ayesha Curry’s Tweets

On Saturday Ayesha Curry, wife of NBA’s most valuable player, Stephen Curry, tweeted  two tweets while reading Style Weekly.

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I personally don’t see anything wrong with these tweets. I think they make perfect sense. Adversely, so many people had a problem with her tweets.  Some said her tweets were insinuating female bodies are “consumer goods” for men. Others thought her tweets were demeaning or condesending. The most disturbing part about this is the majority of the negative comments were from other women. You would think women would be supportive. Most of these women who wrote the negative tweets were trying to prove a point on behalf of feminism. But they should keep in mind, feminism does not mean sacrificing standards.

As a Christian woman I think her comments are spot on!  All Ayesha said was she has standards in the way she dresses and presents herself. As an advocate on “expressing God’s best in the way you dress”, I too believe revealing clothes should not be worn in public. The whole world should not see your “goods.” Save it for your husband. Or if you’re not married, save it for your future husband. Presentation matters.

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The Bible says, “Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.” 1 Corinthians 6:19-20

First off, our bodies don’t belong to us they belong to the Lord. So if one thinks dressing in revealing clothes is a self-expression, they are mistaken. Dressing in revealing clothes is a flesh-expression.  Those who are of the world will not understand this. Those who are in the world but not of it will understand this (John 15:19). Revealing clothes on a woman serves one purpose-to illustrate sex.  And if wearing revealing clothes is one’s style then that means their worth is in sexual appearance and worldly attention. It’s obvious their worth is not in Christ.

 Wearing revealing clothes is not her style. Which is rear for her being a famous basketball player’s wife. There are so many reality TV shows like Basketball Wives and Real Housewives that highlight wives of athletes who wear tight revealing clothes. Ayesha is a light and she is changing the perception. Thanks Ayesha for embracing modesty and expressing God’s best in the way you dress! 🙂

By Patrice McKenzie

Photo: Washington Post and Instagram/ayeshacurry