Patience

Behind The Veil: Hidden In Singleness

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I’ve been single for a little over three years and sometimes I feel like I’m in hiding. Not on purpose or by choice. I just don’t get approached my men who are looking for relationships. I’m not going to lie; singleness can be lonely and even frustrating. I have experienced a roller coaster of emotions. The highest point is when I was Miss Independent. You know the kind. The type of woman who claims she doesn’t need a man. She’s good on her own. Then at my lowest point when I was feeling down, insecure and believing the enemies lies that I was unlovable. Then I’d have months of coasting going through the days of singleness trying to “cope.” I’d sometimes pray for my future husband to appear the next day as if God was a genie in a bottle.

In a women’s Christian conference I attended called Pinky Promise, one of the speakers, Allyson Rowe, did a sermon about singleness. One thing she said that hit me was that “there is a spiritual attack on the identity of a single women.” Society may look at single women as if we are defeated or pity singles for the lack of a companion.

This causes discontentment and I sometimes find myself trying to fix myself as if I am defected. In an attempt to “fix” myself, I signed up for an online dating site. I knew the minute I finished my online dating profile and went “live” that I was working outside of God’s will. It was solely my flesh and my discontentment that got me to this website to begin with. My flesh convinced me that I was missing out and I needed to put myself out there. The first night I got so many likes, messages, and views. For me, someone who was in hiding for three years, this was an overwhelming experience. My spirit was unsettled and I was not really at peace, but I decided to test it out a little longer.

I got messages from men who were not looking for anything serious, just a good time. Heather Lindsey would call these men – randoms. These are men who were set in my path to cause distraction and to get me off track with God. I had my profile up for two weeks before I deleted it.

Then I realized God did not just hide me from these randoms, He was protecting me from the enemy’s distractions, lies, discontentment, lustful desires, sexual immorality, fornication and ungodly dating. He was covering me from all the spiritual turmoil that comes in an unequally yoked relationship (2 Corinthians 6:14). These experiences also made me think of 1 Corinthians 10:23:

“‘All things are lawful,’ but not all things are helpful. ‘All things are lawful,’ but not all things build up.”

This made me think of a wedding veil. It hides the brides face during the wedding until her husband lifts it up to seal the vows with a kiss. Just like that veil, God is covering me until my future husband finds me. Until then, I will trust and wait patiently for my Mr. Right.

XO,

Patrice
patrice@areyoushe.com

Check out Allyson Rowe’s YouTube Video on singleness-


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Wait In Faith.

I almost lost it when Bishop told me to wait.

His words came after the spirit broke out at Petra International Ministries one Sunday.

As dozens received healing and words of revelation, my word came in a four letter word most of us don’t like to admit we hate.

After I dried my eyes and pushed my pride aside, Bishop walked over to me following the sermon and said, “God says this is a word you have heard before. Don’t take it the wrong way. God wants you to wait in faith.”

His words were comforting yet still hard to hear following my nearly full blown meltdown of panic and anxiety.

I’ve been waiting a lot lately. And maybe you are too.

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Waiting for a word. Waiting for a promise. Waiting for a promotion. Or waiting when God will reveal “the one” to you.

Whatever you’re waiting for, there’s nothing like hoping to hear an update from God and all you get is the word “wait”.

For so long, I’ve waited for a revelation, hoping God would speak prophetically to give me clarity and confirmation. But this time, I’ve decided I’m going to do my waiting a bit differently.

Moments after Bishop released those words about waiting to me, one of my older sisters in Christ came up to me and said something that hit me spiritually. She said God wants me to wait so I can bloom into the beautiful flower He wants me to be. If I struggle to wait for God’s timing, the process is going to take longer and I won’t walk in the fullness of my anointing.

Often times when we’re told to wait, it can seem like the end of the world. But if we’re not careful, we can become like the Israelites on the way to the Promised Land– grumbling and complaining and not trusting in the LORD. Their journey should have only taken them 11 days but instead, they wandered in the wilderness for 40 years before they reached the land they had been waiting for.

Our biggest problem with waiting isn’t patience but perspective. We focus more on how long it will take than the fact there is something God has in store for us. If we haven’t learned by now, the truth of the matter is, God loves to give us an element of surprise.

One day during my devotional time with the LORD, I came across this psalm and ever since, I’ve been praying it daily:

“My soul, wait silently for God alone, for my expectation is from Him.” Psalm 62:5 

Our expectation should be in God and God alone. Not your boyfriend. Not your boss. Not even within yourself.

The moment we take our eyes off Him, that’s when it feels as if our boats are about to sink. That’s when we start second guessing instead of standing firm on God’s word and trusting He will fulfill His promises. Don’t become double-minded, tossing and turning like the waves of the sea. That opens the door for the enemy to flood your mind with doubt and disbelief.

If there’s anything I’m learning this season it’s to wait in faith and trust God will work everything else out.

By Sydni Grant
sydni@areyoushe.com
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3 Things To Remember When You’re Angry

I’m sure we all can attest to getting angry. Anger is something I can definitely admit I struggle with. I can think of constant times where I was frustrated or impatient. Whether I was upset witwoman_screaming_page-bg_12177h family, frustrations with my job, or even not getting the grades I desired when I was in college/graduate school, I’ve struggled with managing my anger. Sometimes anger takes precedence in the moment we’re upset and we say things we don’t mean and words we cannot take back. Anger itself is not a sin; however, as believers, we are not called to sin because of anger. It’s so easy to get caught up in our anger and go off. Well how do we manage this?

Pray

“Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me, and know my anxieties; And see if there is any wicked way in me, And lead me in the way everlasting.” Psalms 139:23-24 NKJV

Take a moment to pray. No matter how angry you are, place yourself before God. Give God your anger. Seek His Presence. Exchange your anger for His Peace. Offer yourself to God and allow Him to examine your heart and the issue. Be transparent with God as David was. Allow God to lead you through it all.

Don’t Fuel The Enemy’s Flame

“Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil.” Ephesians 4:26-27 ESV

Satan wants nothing more than for us to sin in our anger. By sinning because of anger, it only feeds into Satan’s schemes. As hard as it is to refrain from acting out in our anger, we need to remember Who we represent. When we’re ALL in for Christ, the enemy hates that. He will use any situation, person (even those closest to you), or thing to kill your entire vibe. We don’t want to give the enemy any part of ourselves as an opportunity for his own gain. Stand firm and remember it’s for Christ we live. — “I have been crucified with Christ; and it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself up for me.” Galatians 2:20 NASB

Count It All Joy

 “My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.” James 1:2-3 NKJV

No matter what trials we face, there is purpose in it. You can either look at situations blindly or with a spiritual perspective. It’s not easy to look at situations we’re in that cause us to be angry, yet God’s Word calls us to consider it ALL joy. When our faith is tested, it produces patience. We can either remain frustrated and angry because of the situations we’re in or we can count it all joy.

When you find yourself angry or upset, remember to pray, don’t fuel the enemy’s flame, and count it all joy. Continue Striving for His Excellence!

By Ashley A. Johnson
ashley@areyoushe.com

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Fruitful Friendships

I never thought I would be the one to be surrounded by Christian friends who were really Striving for His Excellence. Friends who I can call my sisters. Friends who can pray for me and with me. I didn’t always have friends who could hold me accountable to the Word of God. As I started to grow spiritually and wanted to really live wholeheartedly for Christ, I prayed for Christian friends who were really trying to live all out for God. It did not happen right away, but it did happen. I am grateful because I have women in my life who want to see me grow in Christ.

As Christians, we should encourage and build each other up daily.  — “Therefore encourage one another and build up one another, just as you also are doing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:11 NASB

A true reflection of accountability is reaching out to your sister or your sister reaching out to you to see how you’re doing spiritually. We all face daily battles, and the enemy would love nothing more than for us to fall for temptations and drift away from our Father. It is important that we nSplitShire-7379-1024x682-970x500ot only have accountability, but hold other sisters in Christ accountable. —“Take care, brethren, that there not be in any one of you an evil, unbelieving heart that falls away from the living God. But encourage one another day after day, as long as it is still called “Today,” so that none of you will be hardened by the deceitfulness of sin.” Hebrews 3:12-13 NASB

It is vital to have accountability partners that will tell you the truth according to God’s Word rather than allowing you to be deceived. True friends are faithful and tell you the truth even if it hurts. — “Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.” Proverbs 27:6 NASB

Recently, my sister in Christ, Taylor, asked me what some of my prayer requests were. One of my prayer requests was to become more patient. Little did I know that following weekend and week my patience would continually be tested. As I went out with my ladies for dinner and to see the movie Do You Believe? (Great movie go see it! lol), Taylor lovingly kept me in check reminding me to be patient. We were waiting for our table to be cleaned so we could be seated. Although I knew a request for the table to be cleaned already occurred, impatiently, I still asked if the request really happened. In that moment, Taylor reminded me of our conversation about patience in the car. I felt convicted, yet very appreciative that I was corrected and corrected in love.  Taylor correcting me was a genuine reflection of Proverbs 28:23, “He who rebukes a man will afterward find more favor than he who flatters with the tongue.” She corrected me and brought to my attention what we had just discussed a couple hours before. She did not flatter me with words that I wanted to hear, but held me accountable. Although convicted and quite embarrassed of my own impatience, I felt truly blessed to be surrounded by women who will not sugar coat and who will keep me in check.

All in all, I am grateful for the women of God He placed in my life. Maybe you’re in a season where you do not have accountability or friends who are living for God wholeheartedly. Do not give up or be discouraged. God will bring them. Know that you are not alone. Continue Striving for His Excellence.

By Ashley A. Johnson
ashley@areyoushe.com

Photo: Splitshire

Patience: 3 Things To Remember While Waiting

Waiting.

Just the thought of simply waiting can cause us to be anxious or impatient.

In a world where there are so many methods to get things done quick, no one likes to wait.

With minute meals, fast food, and get rich quick schemes, everyone wants things done in a quick, timely matter.

Let’s face it, we don’t like waiting.

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I’ve made plenty of decisions because I was impatient and did not want to wait. Whether it was switching long lines in a store to a shorter/fast pace line or simply being impatient in my conversations or relationships.

Sometimes I get upset when things do not go my way or in the time frame I want it to. This can definitely be an issue for me. I have to remember that everything is not going to occur the way I want it to and when I want it to.

What happens when we don’t get what we want? How do we react?

What if we prayed and prayed and prayed, yet what we prayed for doesn’t occur?

How often do we move before God tells us to move?

3 Things to Remember While Waiting:

1) God operates differently than we do. 

“‘For My thoughts are not your thoughts, nor are your ways My ways,’ declares the LORD. ‘For as the heavens are higher than the earth, so are My ways higher than your ways and My thoughts than your thoughts.’” (Isaiah 55:8-9 NASB)

God is Omnipresent. He sees the past, present, and future. Whereas, we see what already occurred in the past, and right now. Sometimes we simply can’t comprehend what He’s doing or how He’s operating. Remember God’s Ways and Thoughts are higher than ours. God is the Author of Time. Although we may not understand what He is doing, He has everything all under His control.

2) Have courage and patience while you wait. 

“Wait for the LORD; Be strong and let your heart take courage; Yes, wait for the LORD.” (Psalms 27:14 NASB)

God is in control. This scripture encourages us to be strong and have courage. God will not leave us in the dark. While He is operating in His Timing, this scripture is a reminder to be patient and wait for Him. While we are waiting, He is working.

3) Even through tears, God is near.

“Those who sow in tears shall reap with joyful shouting. He who goes to and fro weeping, carrying his bag of seed, Shall indeed come again with a shout of joy, bringing his sheaves with him.” (Psalms 126:5-6 NASB)

God sees our tears. He sees how hard we work. He sees what we go through, and He hears our prayers. After all the seeds are planted and produce crop, we’ll have joy. We will be able to smile looking back during our season of waiting with our crop/harvest.

So during seasons of waiting, let’s remember to stay encouraged and faithful. Know God is near and He will not abandon us. Keep pushing through! Wait for Him. He is Faithful.

Will you wait for Him?

“The LORD is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit.” (Psalms 34:18 NASB)

By Ashley A. Johnson
ashley@areyoushe.com

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