So I hate to say this, but I gotta get it off my chest.
Our insatiable desire for a man is part of the curse.
Yearning for a man entangles us in bondage.
And the sad thing is, most of us don’t even know it.
This revelation came to me while I was listening to Bishop Donald Clay release a powerful word about fear connecting us to the curse.
When Adam and Eve ate fruit from the forbidden tree, not only did the sanction of sin come down on humanity, it crippled the woman with painful childbirth and always longing for a man
“Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” Genesis 3:16 (NKJV)
This verse isn’t about submission — but our state of subconsciousness in relation to a man.
The Hebrew word used for desire in this scripture is “tesuqa” which means longing or stretching.
If you think about it, women do all kinds of things to stretch for a man.
Bend over backwards, sacrifice standards, and remai unequally yoked.
He may be lukewarm but we justify the relationship anyways.
It’s better to be with someone than single right?
There’s nothing wrong with wanting a man.
It’s just a problem when the desire gets out of hand.
Wendy Alsup, blogger of “Practical Theology for Women”, sums up this point perfectly:
“The problem with our desires is always that they are either for the wrong thing or for the right thing but out of proportion of what is appropriate.”
That’s why so many women are struggling.
The desire is out of proportion of what is appropriate.
How many times have you been on your knees begging for a Boaz?
Or felt like you’re missing out because you’re living a wedding band?
Ladies, we can no longer allow the enemy to have the upper hand.
Too many of us are looking to men for affirmation and provision.
But men were never intended to have that position.
They can’t supply all of our needs physically, emotionally and spiritually.
The truth of the matter is, only God, not man can handle that.
So let’s get out under that curse and trust Christ with the desires our hearts.
By Sydni Grant