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Behind The Veil: Hidden In Singleness

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I’ve been single for a little over three years and sometimes I feel like I’m in hiding. Not on purpose or by choice. I just don’t get approached my men who are looking for relationships. I’m not going to lie; singleness can be lonely and even frustrating. I have experienced a roller coaster of emotions. The highest point is when I was Miss Independent. You know the kind. The type of woman who claims she doesn’t need a man. She’s good on her own. Then at my lowest point when I was feeling down, insecure and believing the enemies lies that I was unlovable. Then I’d have months of coasting going through the days of singleness trying to “cope.” I’d sometimes pray for my future husband to appear the next day as if God was a genie in a bottle.

In a women’s Christian conference I attended called Pinky Promise, one of the speakers, Allyson Rowe, did a sermon about singleness. One thing she said that hit me was that “there is a spiritual attack on the identity of a single women.” Society may look at single women as if we are defeated or pity singles for the lack of a companion.

This causes discontentment and I sometimes find myself trying to fix myself as if I am defected. In an attempt to “fix” myself, I signed up for an online dating site. I knew the minute I finished my online dating profile and went “live” that I was working outside of God’s will. It was solely my flesh and my discontentment that got me to this website to begin with. My flesh convinced me that I was missing out and I needed to put myself out there. The first night I got so many likes, messages, and views. For me, someone who was in hiding for three years, this was an overwhelming experience. My spirit was unsettled and I was not really at peace, but I decided to test it out a little longer.

I got messages from men who were not looking for anything serious, just a good time. Heather Lindsey would call these men – randoms. These are men who were set in my path to cause distraction and to get me off track with God. I had my profile up for two weeks before I deleted it.

Then I realized God did not just hide me from these randoms, He was protecting me from the enemy’s distractions, lies, discontentment, lustful desires, sexual immorality, fornication and ungodly dating. He was covering me from all the spiritual turmoil that comes in an unequally yoked relationship (2 Corinthians 6:14). These experiences also made me think of 1 Corinthians 10:23:

“‘All things are lawful,’ but not all things are helpful. ‘All things are lawful,’ but not all things build up.”

This made me think of a wedding veil. It hides the brides face during the wedding until her husband lifts it up to seal the vows with a kiss. Just like that veil, God is covering me until my future husband finds me. Until then, I will trust and wait patiently for my Mr. Right.

XO,

Patrice
patrice@areyoushe.com

Check out Allyson Rowe’s YouTube Video on singleness-


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Day 10: #100DaysOfGloryChallenge

Words cannot even express how blown away I am by God…Last night, I had a dream that a man in a wheelchair got up and walked at my church. Today, that dream manifested in such a powerful way. As we prayed, declared and decreed Mr. Leslie was going to walk in Jesus’ name, he got up out of that wheelchair after being bound to it for 40 years!!! There’s nothing our God can’t do! If you have the faith the size of a mustard seed, God will move mountains!

By Sydni Grant
sydni@areyoushe.com

Word Wednesday: Thankfulness

As I was on my commute to work in worship, I was taking in the beauty that surrounded me. God shared a fresh reminder with me: No matter if we are in a storm or a drought, give thanks.

By Ashley A. Johnson
ashley@areyoushe.com

Consider The Lilies.

When my friend from college met me during his day trip to Pittsburgh yesterday, he said something simple yet striking.

As I was telling him about the major transitions going on in my life, he said, “Sydni, I’m not worried about you.”

I’ve probably heard that phrase a million times before but have you ever heard someone say something and all of a sudden it just hits you?

When Bryant said, I’m not worried about you, it made me realize God isn’t worried about me either.

Anyone who knows me knows I can be bit of a worrier. I can get anxious and panic over the littlest things. Maybe it’s the perfectionist in me or the fact that I really do want to succeed. But recently, all the worry and stress seems to be killing me spiritually.

When you’re going through a tough time or on a really rough road, the worst thing you can do is look on your Facebook news feed and see what everyone else is doing in the world.

And that’s exactly what happened to me. I felt stuck and on my way to nowhere even though I know there’s a calling on my life to prosper. But sometimes, finding that next step, knowing what direction to take can make you feel super low.

Despite what it does or doesn’t look like, we have to know (even though it’s hard) that God has a future and a hope for us. Just look up Jeremiah 29:11.

Sometimes we have to punch doubt and despair in the face.

Sometimes we have to fight by believing God’s word even when we feel as if we’re in last place.

We need to stop treating life as a race and embrace the journey He wants us to take.

When I went to a prayer meeting last week, one of the elders of the church who prayed for me said something that cut me deep but was fitting. She said, “Stop crying over your worrying. Everything is about to fall into place.”

At first, I was a little offended because God knows I’m super emotional. But the more and more I allowed her words to sink into my spirit, I thought maybe just maybe He’s trying to break some chains because He knows how concerned I am…

As I’m sitting here writing these words, this verse immediately dropped into my spirit:

“Consider the lilies, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; and yet I say to you, even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these. If then God so clothes the grass, which today is in the field and tomorrow is thrown into the oven, how much more will He clothe you, O you of little faith?” Luke 12:27

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Ladies, consider the lilies. They sprout, they grow and they fade. But in between the wind and the rain, the storms and the heat, their radiance remains the same. And the same goes for you. No matter what you’re going through, what doors are closing or the transition before the breakthrough, trust and believe God is with you. He is the one clothing you. He is the one standing beside you even when you feel you’re down in the game.

When we consider the lilies, we realize there’s hope for us too.

By Sydni Grant
sydni@areyoushe.com
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3 Things To Do When Everyone Is Getting Blessed Except For You.

If your news feed is anything like mine, it’s filled with engagement announcements and pictures of ultrasounds.

You’re happy for the people who are getting married and having babies. But have you ever wondered, “When is it going to be me?”

If so, you’re not alone. Many young women I have been talking to lately are struggling with the same thing. They’re trusting in the LORD, doing everything right, but their time hasn’t come yet. And sometimes, it can feel like a lonely road.

waiting for blessingI thought I was going to be one of those girls who meets “the one” and then would be married immediately. But God apparently had different plans for me. My man and I had accountability partners, abstained from sex and took pre-martial counseling classes at our church. But after several years of our courtship, spiritual attacks and personal setbacks, we still weren’t engaged. Instead of waiting on God and trusting in His timing, I was frustrated with where I was and wasn’t going.

Whether you’re hoping for marriage, a family or a new career, it’s not easy seeing everyone else get blessed except for you. During this season of waiting, God revealed to me I had a heart issue. I was looking more at the world instead of focusing on Him. I had to repent because I was coveting what others had instead of being grateful for all God has given me. But in the midst of my sin, God taught me 3 things to do while waiting for a breakthrough.

Pray In Circles. If God has placed a promise in your heart or prophetic words have been spoken over you, keep praying. The word instructs us to pray without ceasing day and night. You can’t birth something unless you push — pray until something happens. Don’t give up just because you don’t see anything happening in the natural. We’re called to walk by faith and not by sight. Jesus is our intercessor, presenting our prayers before the Father. When we pray according to His will, we can’t lose because He already won it all for us when He went to the cross.  “So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.” Luke 9:11 (NIV) 

Praise Him For The Breakthrough. When we give God thanksgiving, we’re thanking Him for what He’s already done. When we praise Him, it’s to glorify who He is and what He’s about to do. Praise isn’t just for Sunday. We’re called to go into the secret place with Him everyday. Tell God how good He is and how much you love Him. We’re always waiting on God to make a move but sometimes, He’s waiting on you. Don’t wait for the worship team and your pastor to glorify His name. Be bold and be brave and start worshiping Him on your own. “Make a joyful noise unto the Lord, all the earth: make a loud noise, and rejoice, and sing praise.” Psalm 98:4 

Count It All Joy. That’s one of the hardest things a Christian is called to do. When your world is falling apart and there seems to be no breakthrough in sight — counting it all joy isn’t easy. When our soul becomes downcast because of our situations, we lose sight of what God is doing behind the scenes. The hardships are all just a set up to move you closer to your destiny. They are meant to test and try you so you become the woman God has called and destined you to be. “Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, James 1:2”

When you’re waiting for breakthrough, God is all about healing your heart and building your character. He wants you humble and whole so when the promise is fulfilled, all the glory goes to God instead of your head.

As you go through trials and tribulations in this season, remember this:

“…suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Romans 5:4 

By Sydni Grant
sydni@areyoushe.com
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Is He Your Resting Place?

Are we resting in God or are we resting in ourselves?

Do we believe in the power of God or more so are convinced by the wisdom of man?

Believe it or not, I can doubt a lot. 

So much so, it sparks anxiety within me.

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When I lose sight of what God is doing, I go into panic mode, questioning everything and everyone around me.

It’s not easy writing and even telling you this.

Sometimes the pressure and fear that comes along with anxiety makes me want to run away from everything.

But that’s the opposite of God’s intention for rest.

He wants us to put our trust, our hope and our all into Him.

He doesn’t want us to be swayed or moved when things don’t go our way.

He wants His word and promises to be the things that breathes life and reassurance to our souls.

But that means we have to relinquish control.

That means we have to get off our own thrones.

The more we move away from God with doubt and unbelief, the more we distance ourselves from His resting place.

God wants the best for us but we first have to be willing to wait and trust in Him no matter how dark it gets.

“Heaven is My throne, and earth is My footstool. Where is the house that you will build Me? And where is the place of My rest?” Isaiah 66:1 

By Sydni Grant
sydni@areyoushe.com
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