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You Have A Title, But Do You Know Your Name?

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For years, I was so focused on having a “quality ” job. When I was in college I strategically planned out my professional career path. I wanted to make sure my resume was golden. I packed my life with extracurricular activities, leadership positions on campus, and other things for accolades. I wanted to prove I was worthy of an awesome job. I saw how my older sister struggled to get a quality job right out of college during the recession and I vowed to myself to never let my circumstances determine my outcome. I had paid internships at large companies, became an RA on campus and during my last year, I decided to squeeze in a second job. In other words; I was a hustler.

All this paid off, and when I graduated from college in 2012 I had a great job, awesome benefits and a salary making over $40K- straight out of college! I was at the prime of my life. I was 22 years old living the “American Dream.” Until one day my “American Dream,” my job, was shaken. Everything I knew was in a state of uncertainty. My faith wavered and the enemy got into my head. I was diagnosed with depression and my doctor put me on an anti-depressant. I felt like I was living without being alive. It was a very dark time in my life and really felt distant from God. Since I was down I was unable to seek God, I decided to chase another job. One with more money and more security…..so I thought. I ran to a job that paid $50K a year. The money was great but the work was not. It was a sales job, and they were more concerned with profit rather than people. There were some unethical things going on. I only lasted there for a few months before I finally decided to leave. So long story short I went from making 40k, to 50k, to being unemployed in less than a year.

I’m not going to lie, I was torn up! I had to move back to my parents’ house in my hometown, sleeping in my childhood bed. At 23 years old I was at my lowest point. And that’s when God began to break me. For weeks, I didn’t sleep regularly. I stayed up all night and day applying for jobs. I kept trying to get out of my current situation, without seeing God as my main source of help. Even though I was going to church, reading scripture I wasn’t truly applying it. So when I was applying for jobs I got turned down each time. It wasn’t until God revealed to me what my underlined confliction was- Pride.

I prided myself on my job titles, my accolades, and all my other accomplishments. I thought surely if I held these job titles at other companies, another company would want me. When job hunting got me nowhere, God had to humble me. He had to show me I do not control my destiny, He does. He had to show me a job title was not my identity.

“Pride leads to disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.” Proverbs 11:2

I read scripture after scripture on pride and humbleness. I also had to read about plans and patience. Then I began to fast and seek the Lord in prayer. I didn’t realize what a strong hold pride and patience were for me. By being unemployed for a few months, I was blessed with this time to grow spiritually. Even though it didn’t feel like a blessing at the time, I now know it was all in God’s plan. God was keeping me the whole time.

Now I know a job title doesn’t define me- it’s whatever God calls me that matters. He titles me and gives me a name, which is way greater than any title a job can give me.

7 Names God Calls Me:

1. He calls me chosen. 

“Put on then, as God’s chosen ones, holy and beloved, compassionate hearts, kindness, humility, meekness, and patience.” (Colossians 3:12)

2. He calls me beloved.

“The beloved of the Lord dwells in safety.” (Deuteronomy 33:12)

3. He calls me His child.

“See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are.” (1 John 3:1)

4. He calls me friend.

“… but I have called you friends…” (John 15:15)

5. He calls me His workmanship.

“For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.” (Ephesians 2:10)

6. He calls me His treasured possession.

“The Lord your God has chosen you to be a people for His treasured possession, out of all the peoples who are on the face of the earth.” (Deuteronomy 7:6)

7. He calls me His daughter.

“And I will be a father to you, and you shall be sons and daughters to Me, says the Lord Almighty.” (2 Corinthians 6:18)

So sis, before you let a job stress you out, before you go chase the next job with a more prestigious title remember this- God has already named you. You are a child of God. Don’t forget that.

Love you all!

Stay blessed,

Patrice McKenzie
patrice@areyoushe.com

Source- http://www.whatjoyismine.net

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Out Of Hand Desire.

So I hate to say this, but I gotta get it off my chest.

Our insatiable desire for a man is part of the curse.

Yearning for a man entangles us in bondage.

And the sad thing is, most of us don’t even know it.

This revelation came to me while I was listening to Bishop Donald Clay release a powerful word about fear connecting us to the curse.

When Adam and Eve ate fruit from the forbidden tree, not only did the sanction of sin come down on humanity, it crippled the woman with painful childbirth and always longing for a man

“Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” Genesis 3:16 (NKJV)  

This verse isn’t about submission — but our state of subconsciousness in relation to a man.

The Hebrew word used for desire in this scripture is “tesuqa” which means longing or stretching. 

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If you think about it, women do all kinds of things to stretch for a man.

Bend over backwards, sacrifice standards, and remai unequally yoked.

He may be lukewarm but we justify the relationship anyways.

It’s better to be with someone than single right?

There’s nothing wrong with wanting a man.

It’s just a problem when the desire gets out of hand.

Wendy Alsup, blogger of “Practical Theology for Women”, sums up this point perfectly:

“The problem with our desires is always that they are either for the wrong thing or for the right thing but out of proportion of what is appropriate.

That’s why so many women are struggling.

The desire is out of proportion of what is appropriate.

How many times have you been on your knees begging for a Boaz?

Or felt like you’re missing out because you’re living a wedding band?

Ladies, we can no longer allow the enemy to have the upper hand.

Too many of us are looking to men for affirmation and provision.

But men were never intended to have that position.

They can’t supply all of our needs physically, emotionally and spiritually.

The truth of the matter is, only God, not man can handle that.

So let’s get out under that curse and trust Christ with the desires our hearts.

By Sydni Grant
sydni@areyoushe.com
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Fruit Of Fear Is Torment.

We all know the verse “perfect love casts out all fear”.

But very few of us know the words that follow after it:

“because fear involves torment.”

When I was meditating and praying today, I read an article on the Elijah List that really seeped into my spirit. Noted bible teacher Al Thomas talked about how we should keep our eyes on God and not the bad news being reported and prophesied all around the world. He Love casts out fearsaid something so simple yet profound that really hit my spirit: the fruit of fear is torment. (1 John 4:18)

Maybe you haven’t been listening or following the bad news reports, but been feeling the same spirit of despair in your own life.

How many of us ask God to take every thought captive but it seems as if that only opens the floodgates for more drama and attacks from the enemy and against our minds?

The reason?

We’re walking in fear instead of faith.

The fruit of faith is peace. The fruit of fear is torment.

When we speak words of doubt over our lives, we’re giving the enemy permission to control and manipulate our minds. Anytime we don’t stand on the word of God or faith — it’s an invitation to let the devil in.

That’s why the fruit of fear is torment. Any thought or any feeling that’s apart from trusting and believing in God is fear.

Over the past few months, many of my friends (and even myself) have been battling with the spirit of torment — fear and doubt, words going against the very promises God has spoken through His word.

Many of us constantly have these voices in our ears, trying to unravel the plans and purposes God has for our lives.

If we continually walked in the revelation of God’s love, perfectly displayed when Christ laid down His life for us, fear wouldn’t stand a chance to enter into our lives; we’d walk worthy of the calling of which we are called. (Ephesians 4:1)

The enemy comes to do 3 things: kill, steal and destroy. And he knows if he can manipulate and torment your mind by bombarding your thought life with negativity, he knows eventually the torment will become so much, you’ll begin speaking those lies over yourself.

That’s why the bible tells us there’s life and death in the power of the tongue. (Proverbs 18:21).

What we speak will either help manifest or kill what God has spiritually planted in our lives.

We’re all pregnant with something. But it’s important for us to be cognizant of what is coming out of our mouths. What many of us don’t understand and what Satan tries to capitalize on is the fact that we don’t realize the power and authority God has given us through our tongues.

When we stand in agreement with God — the things God has laid in our hearts will be established. But when we open our mouths in disbelief, we give permission to the enemy to come in and destroy those things God wants us to have for His kingdom.

The gifts and callings on your lives are irrevocable. They cannot be taken away. They are God’s gift to you. But you have to believe it. You have to trust in God that everything He has said is going to come to pass.

James Goll once wrote, “What God counts as significant will often arouse great opposition from the enemy.”

And it’s so true. When you receive word of a promise, purpose or promotion — expect opposition. The greatest attack will be against your mind. But no matter how hard torment and confusion comes against your mind, hold fast to the word of God. Encourage and speak life over yourself.

Speak life over your life.

Speak life over your dreams.

Speak live over your destiny.

Speak life over your future.

Speak life over your family.

Speak life over your friends.

Speak life over your future marriage (yes, I said it!)

And speak life over all that is and is to come.

“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but power, love and a sound mind.” 2 Timothy 1:7

By Sydni Grant
sydni@areyoushe.com

What Are You Running From?

This is a question that God put on my heart recently. What are you running from? What are you struggling with? What’s causing you to run? It may be making a difficult decision. It may be doubt. It may be fear. Whatever the situation is, know the solution is right at our finger tips.

By Ashley A. Johnson
ashley@areyoushe.com