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Behind The Veil: Hidden In Singleness

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I’ve been single for a little over three years and sometimes I feel like I’m in hiding. Not on purpose or by choice. I just don’t get approached my men who are looking for relationships. I’m not going to lie; singleness can be lonely and even frustrating. I have experienced a roller coaster of emotions. The highest point is when I was Miss Independent. You know the kind. The type of woman who claims she doesn’t need a man. She’s good on her own. Then at my lowest point when I was feeling down, insecure and believing the enemies lies that I was unlovable. Then I’d have months of coasting going through the days of singleness trying to “cope.” I’d sometimes pray for my future husband to appear the next day as if God was a genie in a bottle.

In a women’s Christian conference I attended called Pinky Promise, one of the speakers, Allyson Rowe, did a sermon about singleness. One thing she said that hit me was that “there is a spiritual attack on the identity of a single women.” Society may look at single women as if we are defeated or pity singles for the lack of a companion.

This causes discontentment and I sometimes find myself trying to fix myself as if I am defected. In an attempt to “fix” myself, I signed up for an online dating site. I knew the minute I finished my online dating profile and went “live” that I was working outside of God’s will. It was solely my flesh and my discontentment that got me to this website to begin with. My flesh convinced me that I was missing out and I needed to put myself out there. The first night I got so many likes, messages, and views. For me, someone who was in hiding for three years, this was an overwhelming experience. My spirit was unsettled and I was not really at peace, but I decided to test it out a little longer.

I got messages from men who were not looking for anything serious, just a good time. Heather Lindsey would call these men – randoms. These are men who were set in my path to cause distraction and to get me off track with God. I had my profile up for two weeks before I deleted it.

Then I realized God did not just hide me from these randoms, He was protecting me from the enemy’s distractions, lies, discontentment, lustful desires, sexual immorality, fornication and ungodly dating. He was covering me from all the spiritual turmoil that comes in an unequally yoked relationship (2 Corinthians 6:14). These experiences also made me think of 1 Corinthians 10:23:

“‘All things are lawful,’ but not all things are helpful. ‘All things are lawful,’ but not all things build up.”

This made me think of a wedding veil. It hides the brides face during the wedding until her husband lifts it up to seal the vows with a kiss. Just like that veil, God is covering me until my future husband finds me. Until then, I will trust and wait patiently for my Mr. Right.

XO,

Patrice
patrice@areyoushe.com

Check out Allyson Rowe’s YouTube Video on singleness-


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SHE Spotlight: Miracle Reed

We were blessed with the opportunity to sit down with Miracle Reed, to interview her for our ARE YOU SHE spotlight series. Miracle is a dynamic woman of God who is dedicated to serving God through ministry, evangelism, books and just her everyday life.

Miracle’s Bio

Miracle Reed is a native of Pittsburgh, PA and has been committed to serving God as well as people since 1994 at the age of 7! She was born 3 months premature, weighing 1.6lbs at birth, placing her in the 20th percentile of babies who survive weighing a little over a pound. Not only did the “Great Physician” take over but He allowed the life of one, to prove to all those who would meet her, that nothing is impossible with God. There is no wonder why her name is Miracle!

Under the leadership of Donald Clay- Senior Pastor of Petra International Ministries (a congregation of 1,500 at the time), Miracle ministered her first official sermon at the age of 7 years. This was only a small glimpse of what was to come but yet another indicator that a series of miraculous events would follow her life. Shortly following her first sermon, it was a known fact that Miracle was no average child but indeed called and set aside to inspire and represent God.

It was certainly apparent from the very beginning that her life would be an inspiration to many. She is a graduate of the Marilyn J. Davis School of the Bible where she received her license for ministry as well as a diploma in the Bible. She is also a graduate of Geneva College where she completed her undergraduate studies, receiving Bachelor degrees in both Biblical Studies and Human Services. Her obedience, passion and love for God have given her the opportunities to not only preach, but counsel and pastor in the United States, Caribbean, Canada and now in Africa. She is the author of multiple books including:

She recently developed PO(People Overcoming Obstacles) which is a movement that brings forth healing, complete wholeness, family restoration, and inspiration to people around the world that have lost sight of their ability to “overcome obstacles” by conducting workshops, seminars and educational teachings made available through her website.

She believes that the only limit in life is that which we create and that one must be open to God without restraints, to truly live without limits.

So without further a due, let’s meet Miracle!

 

Day 10: #100DaysOfGloryChallenge

Words cannot even express how blown away I am by God…Last night, I had a dream that a man in a wheelchair got up and walked at my church. Today, that dream manifested in such a powerful way. As we prayed, declared and decreed Mr. Leslie was going to walk in Jesus’ name, he got up out of that wheelchair after being bound to it for 40 years!!! There’s nothing our God can’t do! If you have the faith the size of a mustard seed, God will move mountains!

By Sydni Grant
sydni@areyoushe.com

Out Of Hand Desire.

So I hate to say this, but I gotta get it off my chest.

Our insatiable desire for a man is part of the curse.

Yearning for a man entangles us in bondage.

And the sad thing is, most of us don’t even know it.

This revelation came to me while I was listening to Bishop Donald Clay release a powerful word about fear connecting us to the curse.

When Adam and Eve ate fruit from the forbidden tree, not only did the sanction of sin come down on humanity, it crippled the woman with painful childbirth and always longing for a man

“Your desire shall be for your husband, and he shall rule over you.” Genesis 3:16 (NKJV)  

This verse isn’t about submission — but our state of subconsciousness in relation to a man.

The Hebrew word used for desire in this scripture is “tesuqa” which means longing or stretching. 

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If you think about it, women do all kinds of things to stretch for a man.

Bend over backwards, sacrifice standards, and remai unequally yoked.

He may be lukewarm but we justify the relationship anyways.

It’s better to be with someone than single right?

There’s nothing wrong with wanting a man.

It’s just a problem when the desire gets out of hand.

Wendy Alsup, blogger of “Practical Theology for Women”, sums up this point perfectly:

“The problem with our desires is always that they are either for the wrong thing or for the right thing but out of proportion of what is appropriate.

That’s why so many women are struggling.

The desire is out of proportion of what is appropriate.

How many times have you been on your knees begging for a Boaz?

Or felt like you’re missing out because you’re living a wedding band?

Ladies, we can no longer allow the enemy to have the upper hand.

Too many of us are looking to men for affirmation and provision.

But men were never intended to have that position.

They can’t supply all of our needs physically, emotionally and spiritually.

The truth of the matter is, only God, not man can handle that.

So let’s get out under that curse and trust Christ with the desires our hearts.

By Sydni Grant
sydni@areyoushe.com
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Glow With Purpose: 3 Things To Remember During The New Year

I always wondered why I never fit in. All throughout grade school and college I personally struggled to fit in. Although I made friends, I felt different. As any follower would, I tried my best to fit in. But no matter how hard I tried to be like my friends and peers, I always felt like there was more than what was presented in front of me.

The world will constantly present ways to distract us or tempt us away from God to compete for our attention and our worship. That is truly a trick of our enemy — Satan. He wants nothing more than to deter us away from God and away from our purpose.

As we are transitioglowning into a new season and a new year, let’s remember who we are in Christ and continue to walk in the calling He has for us as believers.

What To Remember During The New Year:

1) We were never called to fit in.

“For our citizenship is in heaven, from which also we eagerly wait for a Savior, the Lord Jesus Christ;” Philippians‬ ‭3:20‬ ‭NASB‬‬

As believers, we are saved and know our time on earth is temporary. Let’s remember to be kingdom-minded. Our citizenship is in Heaven. We are to walk in a higher disposition than what the world can ever offer us to walk in. In order to maintain a kingdom-mindset, we have to be okay with standing out and being different no matter what is trending or common to those among us.

“And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” Romans 12:2 NKJV

2) Press in God’s Presence

“Seek the Lord and His strength; seek His face continually.” Psalm 105:4 NASB

Each day we are blessed with a new day to go deeper in our relationship with God. We need to go deeper. This year, let’s go deeper into God’s presence like we’ve never gone before. Have a heart to seek Him and pursue His Will.

“When You said, ‘Seek My face,’ my heart said to You, ‘Your face, Lord, I will seek.'” Psalm 27:8 NKJV

We must be open and willing to lay our own desires down in pursuit of seeking God’s desires. When we enter His presence, we must enter with an open heart and zeal with expectancy to be transformed when we encounter Him.

3) G.L.O.W. (Glory Lies Overtly Within)

Simply, glow! God gave me the acronym, Glory Lies Overtly Within, as I was on my way to work thinking about glowing with purpose. He designed each of us with glory in mind. He instills purpose in each one of us. From this day forward and into the new year, simply, glow. Be the woman of God He’s called you to be. Let the unique fire within you flow out of you. God has predestined us each for His Glory.

“Just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we would be holy and blameless before Him. In love He predestined us to adoption as sons through Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the kind intention of His will,” ‭Ephesians‬ ‭1:4-5‬ ‭NASB‬

By Ashley A. Johnson
ashley@areyoushe.com

The Christmas Story- Carry Your Purpose: Faith In God’s Plan When You Don’t Understand

 

Christmas is in 2 days! To celebrate Christmas, I want to highlight a significant part in the story of the birth of Jesus Christ- faith in God’s plan! Mary was engaged to Joseph and she was a virgin. However, she still gave birth to the son of God by remaining pure. It was Mary’s God-given purpose to carry and give birth to Jesus. What an honor! Despite her initial puzzlement of God’s plan, she was obedient and had faith in His purpose for her. Even though many did not understand or believe her, she carried her purpose.morethings

God sent the angel Gabriel to Nazareth to tell Mary the good news.

“Don’t be afraid, Mary,” the angel told her, “for you have found favor with God! You will conceive and give birth to a son, and you will name him Jesus. He will be very great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his ancestor David. And he will reign over Israel forever; his Kingdom will never end!” (Luke 1:30-33 NLT).

At first she questioned Gabriel’s statement by presenting logic. She told him she was a virgin so she could not be pregnant. Which is common for us to do because we tend to want to lead with our own understanding (Proverbs 3:5) rather than believing God’s supernatural power. But Gabriel reminded Mary of her relative Elizabeth’s miracle. Elizabeth was barren and old in age. She was told she could never have children. But God made it possible. Elizabeth conceived a son when others thought she could not. “For the word of God will never fail.” (Luke 1:37 NLT)

With this remembrance, Mary responded, “I am the Lord’s servant. May everything you have said about me come true.” (Luke 1: 38a NLT)

Her fiance Joseph also had a difficult time understanding how Mary was pregnant. Although he was a believer, he used logical thinking rather than trusting in God’s power. All he knew was his soon to be wife was pregnant and the child was not his. So he decided to divorce Mary quietly. Then an angel came to Joesph in a dream and assured him Mary’s child was from God.

Fast forward nine months later- Mary gave birth to Immanuel (God with us).

Three questions to ask yourself as you reflect on this scripture-

  1. Are you expecting?
  2. Do you see your situation with faithful eyes or are you using the logic of human limitations?
  3. Which miracles in your life can you look back on that will remind you of God’s power?

Remember, God has a plan for you that you may not understand. Have faith and trust in God’s plan over your life. We are all pregnant with purpose and when that time comes we must be ready to PUSH.

Merry Christmas ladies!

By Patrice McKenzie
patrice@areyoushe.com

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